– It’s hard to make peace when you’re still trying to win.
I’ve noticed something tricky about pride. It whispers to you that winning matters more than peace, that proving your point is better than protecting a relationship. Pride convinces you to keep score—to make sure everyone knows you were right. But what pride never tells you is how much peace costs when you let it win.
I remember a disagreement I had with someone I cared about deeply. The more I tried to prove my point, the deeper the divide became. My words grew sharper, my heart hardened, and the distance between us widened. It was exhausting. It wasn’t until later, in a quiet moment of honesty with myself, that I realized the real obstacle wasn’t misunderstanding—it was pride.
Paul spoke clearly about this in Philippians 2:3 (CSB), saying, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility consider others as more important than yourselves.” The essence of humility isn’t about losing; it’s about willingly setting aside your need to be right so you can create space for something far more valuable: reconciliation.
Reconciliation requires humility—the kind that lets go of defenses and reaches out. It means opting for connection instead of competition, and prioritizing peace over pride. This isn’t easy because humility can feel like being vulnerable. Yet, vulnerability is where relationships heal, hearts mend, and peace flourishes.
Maybe, like me, you’ve found yourself standing in the aftermath of an argument wondering, “Was it worth it?” Maybe you’ve seen pride rob you of peace too many times. If so, it’s time to choose differently— to lay your pride down so that peace can rise.
Because reconciliation isn’t about winning. It’s about love, humility, and choosing peace even when pride whispers loudly in your ear.
District Elder & Pastor Harold Robertson, Jr. is a seasoned IT Professional and spiritual leader who bridges technology and faith to drive innovation in schools, churches, and communities. With certifications in ITIL, Google Workspace, AI, and church administration, he empowers organizations to thrive through strategic tech integration and leadership.
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Pastor Harold Robertson, Jr.
District Elder & Pastor Harold Robertson, Jr. is a seasoned IT Professional and spiritual leader who bridges technology and faith to drive innovation in schools, churches, and communities. With certifications in ITIL, Google Workspace, AI, and church administration, he empowers organizations to thrive through strategic tech integration and leadership.
