God uses friction to reveal areas that still need growth.
We don’t like conflict. We avoid it. We pray it away. Sometimes we even rebuke it as if it were a demon. But not every storm comes from the enemy. Some are permitted. Some are essential. Because some truths about us only emerge under pressure.
Conflict isn’t always the devil—it’s often a mirror. It reflects what’s still broken, bruised, or bound inside of us. The argument that pushes your buttons, the disagreement that disrupts your peace, the correction that hits too close—that might be the Holy Spirit holding up a mirror, not Satan picking a fight.
In Exodus 17, God allowed conflict to arise between Moses and the people so that what was inside of them (and him) could come to the surface. And what came to the surface? Their thirst. Their complaints. Their doubts. But also Moses’ frustration. His impatience. His hidden weariness. That rock didn’t just produce water—it revealed pressure.
We love to blame the devil for everything, but sometimes the real issue is us. God isn’t trying to destroy you with tension—He’s developing you through it.
That silent treatment you gave? The short temper? The way you shut down and avoided the conversation? That wasn’t just about what they said. That was about what you still haven’t healed.
Conflict is a classroom, and most of us keep skipping class.
James 1:19 (NLT) says, “You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.” Notice the order. God isn’t trying to expose others to you—He’s trying to expose you to you. So you can grow. Heal. Mature.
And yes, the enemy will take advantage of the conflict if you allow it. But the source doesn’t always begin with him. Sometimes the fire is from God—refining, not punishing.
So here’s a better prayer the next time conflict arises:
“Lord, what are You showing me about myself in this moment?”
Because maybe you’re not under attack.
Maybe you’re under construction.
District Elder & Pastor Harold Robertson, Jr. is a seasoned IT Professional and spiritual leader who bridges technology and faith to drive innovation in schools, churches, and communities. With certifications in ITIL, Google Workspace, AI, and church administration, he empowers organizations to thrive through strategic tech integration and leadership.
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Pastor Harold Robertson, Jr.
District Elder & Pastor Harold Robertson, Jr. is a seasoned IT Professional and spiritual leader who bridges technology and faith to drive innovation in schools, churches, and communities. With certifications in ITIL, Google Workspace, AI, and church administration, he empowers organizations to thrive through strategic tech integration and leadership.
