Faith for the Things You Don’t Talk About

Exploring the unspoken struggles where God still wants to meet us.

Some of the hardest things in life are the things we never speak out loud. The wounds we’ve learned to dress in silence. The fears that show up in the quiet moments—after the meetings, after the kids are asleep, after church is over. The battles we push down and cover up with busyness, strength, or sarcasm.

It’s not that we don’t have faith. It’s that our faith is loud in public places but silent when it comes to the secret struggles. The ones that feel too heavy, too messy, or too painful to name.

I’ve learned something in my own walk with God: He’s not only the God of the platform, the pulpit, or the praise break. He’s also the God of the backroom breakdowns, the replayed conversations, the panic attacks in the car, and the prayers we never quite finish because the tears come first.

There are things I didn’t know I needed faith for—

• Grief I tucked away instead of processed
• Insecurities I dressed up in confidence
• Decisions I made because I was tired, not because I was led
• Questions about God’s timing I didn’t dare ask out loud

And yet, God was there. Waiting. Not for me to be perfect, but for me to be honest.

God Still Wants In—Even There

We tend to think faith only works when we’re strong. But sometimes, faith is just noticing the wound—and letting God sit with us in it. Not rush it. Not judge it. Just be there. The same way He showed up for Elijah in the cave, not with a loud wind or fire, but with a whisper (1 Kings 19:11-12 NIV).

There is faith in the whisper. Faith in saying, “Lord, I don’t even know what to say about this… but I know You see me.”
Faith is not always declarative. Sometimes it’s barely audible. Sometimes it’s just not giving up.

Your Silent Places Still Matter

Maybe no one knows that you’re still angry about how things ended. Or that you’re embarrassed by your financial decisions. Or that sometimes you feel forgotten in a crowd of people who love you but don’t really see you.

Maybe you’ve got questions about your worth, about love, about starting over. Maybe your silence has become your shield because it’s safer than being misunderstood.

Here’s what I want to tell you:
God can handle the conversations you’re scared to have.
And more than that, He wants to. He’s not intimidated by your emotions or your questions. He’s not ashamed of your silence.

Psalm 34:18 says,

“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”

That includes your heartbreak. Even the kind you don’t post about. Even the kind you don’t bring up in prayer requests. Even the kind you downplay because you think someone else has it worse.

The Invitation to Be Real

You don’t have to tell everyone. But you do need to tell God.
And if you’re brave enough—tell yourself.
Name it. Mourn it. Ask God to meet you in it.

Because here’s the truth:
Faith for the unspoken starts with letting God speak into it.

Let Him speak into the shame, the loneliness, the unhealed childhood stuff, the relationships that confuse you, the parts of your heart that haven’t felt safe in a long time.

And when you do, you’ll discover a deeper kind of healing—not just for what happened, but for who you’re becoming.

If this resonates with you, I want to remind you:
You don’t need to have the right words.
Just start with, “God, I’m here. And this still hurts.”

That’s faith too.

Pastor Harold

Pastor Harold