Is It Wrong to Want Something New Now?

It’s okay to desire differently as you grow.

Sometimes the hardest part of growing isn’t the pain of stretching—it’s the grief of letting go. We don’t always talk about that. We celebrate new seasons, but we rarely admit that outgrowing old dreams can feel like losing a part of ourselves. Yet somewhere between who you were and who you’re becoming, God whispers something freeing: It’s okay to want differently now.

There’s a quiet shift that happens as we mature. What you prayed for at 22 doesn’t always match what you need at 42. What felt urgent in one season feels unnecessary in the next. And that’s not confusion—that’s evolution. The Lord never designed your life to stay still. He leads you from glory to glory, not glory to stagnation. Scripture says in 2 Corinthians 3:18 (CSB) that we “are being transformed… from glory to glory.” Transformation requires release.

Here’s the part many of us struggle with: you’re not failing because your old dream doesn’t fit anymore. You’re just finally being honest about the shape of your calling. You’re braver now. Wiser now. More aware of what drains you and what wakes you up. That’s a gift.

Sometimes God lets a dream expire so a new one can breathe. Not because the first dream was bad, but because it was too small for who you’re becoming. The dream was training wheels; the new one is the real ride. Don’t rush to resurrect what God allowed to retire. Don’t cling to something He already called “finished.”

And yes—this shift can feel messy. It can feel like you wasted years chasing something you no longer want. But hear me: nothing is wasted. Every experience, every detour, every closed door taught you something about your identity, your values, your purpose. And in this season, God isn’t judging your change in desires—He’s guiding it.

There’s a maturity that comes when you’re no longer impressed by the things that once dazzled you. Peace becomes more valuable than applause. Wholeness means more than visibility. And calling becomes more about obedience than image.

So breathe. Release. Grow. It’s okay to say, “That used to be my dream… but it isn’t anymore.” It’s okay to reach for what aligns with who God is shaping you to be today—not who you were then.

Your new dream isn’t a betrayal of the old one. It’s a graduation.

Pastor Harold Robertson, Jr.

District Elder & Pastor Harold Robertson, Jr. is a seasoned IT Professional and spiritual leader who bridges technology and faith to drive innovation in schools, churches, and communities. With certifications in ITIL, Google Workspace, AI, and church administration, he empowers organizations to thrive through strategic tech integration and leadership.

Pastor Harold Robertson, Jr.

District Elder & Pastor Harold Robertson, Jr. is a seasoned IT Professional and spiritual leader who bridges technology and faith to drive innovation in schools, churches, and communities. With certifications in ITIL, Google Workspace, AI, and church administration, he empowers organizations to thrive through strategic tech integration and leadership.