Grace doesn’t replace growth—it empowers it.
We love to say “God sent them.” And maybe He did. But that doesn’t mean the relationship will float along without struggle, stretch, or sanctification. Just because it’s godly doesn’t mean it’s effortless. In fact, the more spiritual the connection, the more intentional the work will have to be.
We confuse grace with ease. But grace isn’t there to remove the work—it’s the strength to endure it. Grace gives you the patience to have the hard conversations, the humility to admit when you’re wrong, and the wisdom to recognize when silence speaks louder than correction.
Relationships grow in the soil of consistency. And consistent love doesn’t always look like butterflies or roses—it looks like showing up when you’d rather withdraw. It looks like praying for your partner, not just posting about them. It looks like apologizing first, even when you feel like you were more right.
If you’re waiting on the “perfect person,” you might be avoiding the necessary growth with a person. Godly doesn’t mean pre-polished. It means you’re both submitted—to Him and to the process.
You’ll still have to choose each other after disagreements.
You’ll still have to unpack trauma that didn’t start in this relationship.
You’ll still have to find a way to communicate when you’re misunderstood.
Yes, pray for the right relationship—but don’t forget to prepare your hands to build what you’re praying for.
Because holy doesn’t mean passive.
Godly doesn’t mean easy.
And love—real love—requires more than just good feelings and great chemistry.
It requires growth.
District Elder & Pastor Harold Robertson, Jr. is a seasoned IT Professional and spiritual leader who bridges technology and faith to drive innovation in schools, churches, and communities. With certifications in ITIL, Google Workspace, AI, and church administration, he empowers organizations to thrive through strategic tech integration and leadership.
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Pastor Harold Robertson, Jr.
District Elder & Pastor Harold Robertson, Jr. is a seasoned IT Professional and spiritual leader who bridges technology and faith to drive innovation in schools, churches, and communities. With certifications in ITIL, Google Workspace, AI, and church administration, he empowers organizations to thrive through strategic tech integration and leadership.