What Makes Someone Spiritually Attractive?

We live in a world that puts a spotlight on looks. Scroll through your phone for two minutes and you’ll see it: body goals, face goals, relationship goals—all wrapped up in filtered perfection. But can we pause for a second and ask: what about soul goals?

Don’t get me wrong—there’s nothing wrong with physical attraction. It’s real. It’s necessary. It has its place. But when attraction becomes the foundation instead of the introduction, we’re setting ourselves up for something that may look good on the outside but be empty on the inside.

Let’s talk about spiritual attraction. The kind of connection where someone’s love for God stirs something in you. Where their humility makes you reflect. Where their prayer life, faith, and endurance pull you deeper into your own. That type of connection lasts. That type of attraction matures. That type of bond can carry you through seasons when the butterflies are gone and life gets real.

I’ve learned—sometimes the hard way—that surface can only take you so far. There were moments when I prioritized what I could see over what I needed spiritually. And honestly? I ended up frustrated. Attracted, but not fed. Connected, but not covered. That’s a hard place to be.

When someone is spiritually attractive, it’s not about how loud they pray or how many scriptures they quote. It’s the fruit they bear. It’s the way they serve others when no one’s watching. It’s how they handle correction, how they respond when they’re hurt, how they trust God even when things don’t go their way. That’s real beauty. That’s substance.

And here’s the truth: spiritual attraction doesn’t fade with age. In fact, it grows more beautiful. A woman or man who walks with God carries a presence that no gym membership or wardrobe can replicate. It’s not flashy, but it’s powerful. It’s not always obvious, but it’s deeply felt.

So, if you’re single and waiting—pray for someone who is fine and faithful, yes. But don’t overlook the ones who carry a quiet strength, a deep joy, and a spiritual maturity that stirs your spirit even when your flesh doesn’t jump at first glance.

And if you’re already in a relationship or marriage, nurture that spiritual bond. Don’t let the physical be the only thing that gets attention. Pray together. Grow together. Read together. Serve together. Deep calls unto deep, and when both of you are committed to going deeper in God, something unshakable is built.

Bottom line: choose depth over surface. Physical attraction can start something, but spiritual attraction can sustain it.

Let’s stop asking, “Are they my type?” and start asking, “Can they walk with me in the Spirit?”
Let’s stop saying, “They look good,” and start saying, “They make me want to be better in God.”

Because at the end of the day, the real glow-up is in the spirit.

Pastor Harold

Pastor Harold