Why You Shouldn’t Feel Bad for Getting Better

You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your freedom.

There’s a strange guilt that can show up when you start walking in freedom.

Not because you’re doing something wrong—but because your healing made someone else uncomfortable. Maybe they were used to the version of you who kept quiet, kept showing up broken, or kept bleeding silently while putting everyone else first.

But healing has a way of shifting how you show up.

It changes your boundaries.
It changes your pace.
It even changes your priorities.

And when that happens, not everyone will cheer for the new you. Especially if they benefited from the version of you who was always available, always accommodating, and always second-guessing your worth.

Let me say this as clearly as I can:
You don’t have to apologize for being well.

Healing Isn’t Just for the Wounded Season

Some people believe you can only be useful while you’re hurting. That the moment you start setting boundaries or reclaiming your voice, you’ve somehow lost your humility. But God Can Still Use You While You Heal—and even more so after you’ve walked through the fire and survived.

Healing is holy.
Freedom is sacred.
And both are worth protecting.

You’re not being “too much” for choosing peace over performance.
You’re not selfish for choosing rest over running yourself dry.

You’re Allowed to Be Whole

You’ve prayed. You’ve cried. You’ve sat in silence asking God if wholeness was even possible. And now that it’s here—now that you’re not living from the same place of survival—you owe it to yourself not to shrink back into the shadows of who you used to be.

You didn’t go through all that to stay hidden.

This is your “When Growth Doesn’t Feel Good” season—where people might not understand your process, but that doesn’t make your progress any less real.

Let Them Adjust (Or Not)

Some will grow with you. Others will walk away. And a few might try to guilt you into staying in a version of your past that no longer fits.

Let them.

Because your healing doesn’t need validation to be valid.
You don’t have to explain why you don’t go to that place anymore.
You don’t need to defend why you stopped answering every call.
You don’t owe anyone an apology for outgrowing what once kept you bound.

God Called You to Wholeness

There’s still a purpose on your life. Still a calling with your name on it.
And you were called for this—even if you’re afraid.

Even if your voice shakes,
Even if your circle shifts,
Even if your confidence wavers…

Keep walking.

Because walking in healing doesn’t mean you’re ignoring your past—it means you’re no longer living in it.

Final Word: You Don’t Have to Stay Small

Don’t apologize for laughing again.
Don’t apologize for dancing again.
Don’t apologize for loving your life again.

You’ve been released—so stop explaining your freedom to people still living in chains.

They may not understand your joy. But they weren’t there in the midnight hour when you were asking God to take the pain away. They didn’t hear the prayers. They didn’t see the tears. They didn’t carry the weight.

So no, you’re not being dramatic.
You’re just finally free.

Pastor Harold

Pastor Harold